Fifth day - "Always forgive your enemies - nothing annoys them so much." - Oscar Wilde

"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you." 

Louis B. Smedes

Yesterday I mentioned our bodies ability to collect negative energy that was caused by  not excepting real life the way it is, being angry, sad - after all- not happy!
But it is not the end of the world   - almost every religion teaches us to forgive, most of self-help books and techniques based of same principle. 


And this is the big work I am going to do next few weeks, I hope I will not last months))) 
In course I'm taking now I have to make a"Unfurled  Formula of Forgiveness". It means, on first phase, I need to write down about people I know or knew that still bother me. I need to forgive them for what I keep deep in my soul, I need to ask for forgiveness for what I know I did to them was wrong, I need to set energy I kept free, I will erase old negative memories  and then will make affirmations how I'm going to react on same or alike situations that can  appear in future. 

I tried similar system last year  when I worked on self forgiveness, so ... I think  now I will work with my feelings I have with others ... Forgiveness technique can be applied not just to people, but to job you may not like, car you are disappointed with and etc. 

"Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed memory is not a deleted memory. Instead, forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future." - Louis B. Smedes

Third and Fourth days ;)

Hi there)))

Last two days I was reading about emotions a lot. 

There are many theories to describe what it is a human emotion - from stoics of ancient Greece to Neurobiological theories. 
Personally I like Cognitive theories. Some of them say that cognitive activity—in the form of judgments, evaluations, or thoughts—is necessary for an emotion to occur and cognitive activity may be conscious or unconscious and may or may not take the form of conceptual processing. 
So emotion is a disturbance that occurs in the following order: 1.) Cognitive appraisal—The individual assesses the event cognitively, which cues the emotion. 2.) Physiological changes—The cognitive reaction starts biological changes such as increased heart rate or pituitary adrenal response. 3.) Action—The individual feels the emotion and chooses how to react.

I think now I have theoretical  base for my first two lessons I had.... because the main idea was that our emotions caused by comparison of our personal anticipations and a situation as we see it!


Therefor, if we expected less and got more - we are happy. 
If our anticipations bigger then we can get there are two scenarios: 

• if we think we can change anything - our reaction will be anger (high energy stage - a warrior type of behavior) 
• if not - we become sad (low energy - depression).

So ... all our emotions come from our anticipations - is it that simple? 
If you can’t change the situation, change how you feel about it.
It is easy talk about it ... but as I already wrote another day, once I started to monitor my emotions, my thoughts I act more conscience and I like it!


Bottom line is all our emotions cause energy blocks in our physical body. Than more blocks we have than more health issues and lack of inner positive energy...  


Tomorrow next part - how to work with old blocks (emotions).

Second day

Good evening!)))
I continue to monitor my emotions ..... That is really funny because then I do it I become more calm!
The need to notice your own behavior makes you to use your intellect more)))
I still experience big emotional swings (mostly about me son - who knows me too good especially how to get attention from me) but I think I start to feel difference and I am able to choose between emotions and "cold" intellect.
I never thought about health issues as unused energy we accumulate at the time of rueful feelings!
It is good for some of us to have ability to expose these feelings by screaming or beating up a pillow but most people are trying not to disturb others ... so we keep all of it inside. 
It is like a energy block here and there ... and it's depends how emotional AND polite we are ... somebody has less - somebody has more....

So ... I'm trying to be kind to myself - do not take everything TOO close and  LET   IT    GO    if I already did !

Day first

Hello, there!))) 
First lessons was about -who we are - humans beings!
And at the beginning,  I've been asked to write list of  wishes I have and also of what I would like to change in myself (self esteem, relationships, health) and surrounding (family, life style, job or business). 
In addition, it was recommended to make a short video (2-3 minutes). I see it as a video letter to myself that I will watch later - after I finish that course!


The intro lesson is about theories used in this method, how, for how long and why we do what we are going to do in some order and why it is so important do not skip classes and to do "homework" - it sounds familiar, isn't it? ))))
I really like this author for creating a technique that makes you involved on every step of the way to transform your life - it is not NLP or Hellinger Approach where trained teachers or coaches will do most of work for you - it works too but to create life long basic for happy life we have to understand ourselves and consciously live life WE CHOOSE!

I was really surprised to know how emotions effect our everyday's life .... Strong emotions can take over our intellect and make us to do something we will fell sorry for - but later. 

So two other behavioral factors are our intellect and instincts.

My first real homework is to monitor my emotions within next few days and to record it in a chart .... 

Let's do it ;)

Happy me:) - A new project!

At the beginning, I would like you to know me ... just a little bit)))
But first, I want to apologize for my poor English but as I already mentioned before my desire to share what I know and how I feel  is much bigger than my unsatisfied writing!
I live in America near 2.5 years and unfortunately languages never were my strongest side)))

Where should I start .... I think I have to say - Than you! - again and again to my mother who rose me through tough time of Perestroika and much more difficult period after that. Who was divorced and yet  gave me a chance to get good University education AND teaching me to feel better about myself. She gifted me the world of books ...
My dear Mother was the one who brought home first Louisa Hay's book that started a new era of my life!
In her books, Louise Hay showed me the way to except myself the way I am, thought me to say "No" when I want to do it, gave me chance to catch moments of enthusiasm and enjoy it.
It was just the beginning! I have read tons of books - self-help, esoteric literature, foreign authors and Russians, even fiction thought me to see bigger picture of life....
As I grew up as a person, sometimes I got frustrated of the complicity of life but it is a normal process - than more you know than more you HAVE to learn!
Because of similarity of life style I preferred to read Russian author like  Mirzakarim Norbekov  and  Alexander Sviyash and others.
I tried to apply their ideas to my life and I can tell it works .... I was a divorced hard working mother in Ukraine ... but I was happy and optimistic life style along with desire to be happy and make happy other people gave me opportunity improve my life there and later helped me to meet my husband, Michael, and moved to the US.

Lately, I was thinking more and more about what really makes people happy - and I would like to show you how these can work for you too!!!
I'm going to start 21 lessons course created by  Alexander Sviyash - "Start your life all over again. Four steps to new reality". It will be my first project on my path of trying to find method that will help to anybody to be happier every day!
And I will keep notes in my blog about changes I experience!
Wish me luck! I will start tomorrow!

Enthusiasm is contagious. Start an epidemic. 

Don Ward 

Enthusiasm is a very powerful thing. Children are a perfect example of it! They can spend hours doing what they what and like but on other hand can get tired in few minutes if we force them to do something they don't want!

I'm sure you familiar with feelings then you can work for hours and hours without rest and at the end you can be not tired at all.

When you are enthusiastic about something you feel like nothing can stop you and you really can do it.
Next time time you feel it  ... respect your feelings and try to remember how it is to be in "enthusiasm state of mind".
Originally, an enthusiast (from the Greek enthousiasmos) was a person possessed be a god.
In modern meaning, an enthusiast is a person who is adventurous, constantly busy with all the energy, who truly lives in the moment.


Been enthusiastic helps to achieve your goals, creates state of mind when your thoughts become a powerful tool on the way to understand who you are and where to go to find your happiness!


So enjoy and exercise your enthusiasm.
Enjoy you body. Eat well, drink water, get enough sleep and rest. Avoid stressful situations, if you can’t avoid them, change who you think and feel about it. Exercise! Or at least walk)))

Take care of you mind. The mind is so powerful that even with a frail body with strong willing mind you still can be enthusiastic and able to change your life and even improve your health. Influence your mind with the right thoughts. Listen to motivational speakers, read inspirational books, think positive! 

Do the things you love. Do the things you love! Dance even if you can do it only at home. Sing even nobody likes how you do it))). Listen music you love. think about people you are happy with! Read!  

Take a break. If you really feel down, give yourself rest. Your joy will come back again! If you have to do something and you don't feel good about it .... please, give yourself  time ... if it still doesn't sound right to you - you don’t have to do it - find something that you are in harmony with (of course, if it is not about your job)))).
Socialize. Socialize with people who share same life view as you.

Enthusiasm is contagious - we will light this world!